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Understand the children's emotional development.


One of the most important things you can do as a responsible parent is to understand your child's feelings. Like adults, children experience complex emotions. However, young children often do not have the vocabulary to talk about how they feel. Instead, they express their feelings in other ways.

They become frustrated, excited, sad, jealous, scared, anxious, irritated, and ashamed. Children can express their feelings through facial expressions, through their body, through their behavior, and play. Sometimes they express their feelings in a physical, inappropriate, or another way.

From the moment children are born, they begin to learn the emotional skills they need to recognize, express, and manage their emotions. They learned how to do this through their social interactions and relationships with their parents, grandparents, and responsible people in their lives who care for them.

Being a parent means you have to play an important role to play in helping children understand their feelings and behaviors. Children need to show how to express their feelings positively and constructively. When children learn to express their childhood feelings, they gain a positive outlook and behavior in future life.

In this article, you will find an explanation about the child's mental, emotional, and social development and some tips to understand what is going on in your child's mind.


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Understand your child's behavior.


Most parents are looking for answers to their problems. But research shows that curiosity about the meaning of your child's behavior helps them regulate their emotions, think flexibly, and manage social situations. You can sometimes understand the child's behavior if not, instead of misinterpreting, stop, think, and then draw conclusions. Parents play a very crucial role in a child's emotional development. Parents should create a sense of security in the mind of children.


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Tips for understanding your child's emotional experience


Observe the children



It's a simple but effective way to learn about your child's experience is to observe. Show interest in what your children are doing or saying. Observe their actions, expressions, and dispositions. Remember that every child is unique. Your child will be different from you and their siblings. Ask yourself some questions that can help you understand your child's psychology.

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Find out what your kids like


When children are alone, they do things they like, for example, drawing, studying, playing, singing, whistling, handicrafts, doing homework, etc. Observe this so that when he is not in a good mood, you can ask him to do what he likes.

Find out if your child is social, see if he or she mixes with other children in the community, see if he or she participates in a shared event, and if he or she does not do so, create an environment for him or her.

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Make time for children.


Recently parents are busy at work and at home. So the kids don't pay much attention to what they do at home. When parents knew about a complaint from their children's school or their studies, it is direct at the children or others in the household Irritated by individuals. Your irritability can cause children to become fearful of you. Instead, reflect on how much time you have at home for your children. If you want to understand your children, you need to make time for them.


Conversations with your children will help you find out what is happening in their lives at school and home, what their favorite music or TV show is, and what motivates them. Children don't always have to say something or do something for them. Sometimes you can sit together and observe them quietly to gather some insights about their experience.

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The concentrate is beneficial for children's study.


Even if it is only for a short time, it will be useful for you to focus on your child and listen to him. You can spend a lot of time with them while doing other things like making dinner with them and getting them to school. This time of ten minutes is a special time that can create a better atmosphere in the home and increasing your intimacy with your child. When you give your child one-sided attention, they feel safe and change the way they look at you.


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Be careful about the children's atmosphere.


Research has shown that a child's behavior and attitudes are shaped significantly by the environment in which children grow up. The home environment can affect the development of a child's brain, which in turn affects his language and cognitive skills. The influence of people reflects on children's behavior.


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Parents must have basic knowledge of mental development.


The brain is said to grow in relationships. Some child development researchers refer to parents as neuro architects. When children interact with their parents who are focused on them, it helps to increase contact between brain cells. Experience can shape the children's brain, and this affects how they respond to different situations.
Positive communication can affect brain growth to facilitate growth healthily. 

Conversely, adverse experiences, such as a constant battle environment or emotional environment, hurt brain development. You can help your children build a solid foundation for a healthy and social life and enable them to handle difficult situations.


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Listen to the children.


Parents should listen to the children when you are conversing with them. You can start a conversation to talk to your child but then try to listen to what they are trying to say. Children will not be able to express themselves clearly, so it is helpful to pay attention to the words they use and their non-verbal cues.


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Understand the meaning of emphasis on a word or phrase.


Expression, children tell you how you feel about something. When trying to understand whether they like it or not, try to gauge their feelings when talking about something, if they are scared or stressed about it. When stressed, children tend to emphasize specific words or phrases. They express their feelings using the word yes or no, so you can help them get rid of stress.


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Study the children's body language.


We insist that children should listen to you, but not think about whether your child is listening or not. Understand their opinion it should also be valuable. Positiveness comes from communication, and communication helps to avoid misunderstandings about each other. They also expect their words are being taken seriously by the adults. Understand what they are saying and try to understand what you are saying. If something is suspicious, ask questions for clarity, but be careful, don't talk too much and ask too many questions. Otherwise, the conversation between each other can stop.


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Encourage children's interest.


If your children love to draw, write, or act, encourage them to do so often. Participating in an art or painting class can help them express themselves better. Ask your child to keep a diary. In it, they can write about what they did each day and how they felt about it.

The more your child writes or draws, the better it is to express them. Show interest in their artwork but be careful not to give extra meaning or you displace your emotions as theirs.

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Ask conceptual questions


Some questions can help when you don't have many conversations with your children or if they don't respond well to what you say. If you ask children, "Do you like this song?" So, within a second, they will answer yes or no, and then the dialogue will stop. If you want to continue the conversation, ask the child, "What do you think about this song?" The answer to this type of question will make the conversation longer so that he can talk more.

Even if you don't have the answers to your child's questions, don't ask his questions are foolish, and neglect to answer the questions. That will affect children's minds. Then they will avoid asking any questions.


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Educate yourself about child development.


Some insights about child development gathered from books or professionals can be helpful. But always remember that you are good at your child. A culture of excessive parental advice can damage a parent's natural skills.


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Show sympathy towards your children.


By telling them that you don't have the same feelings when you take your child's feelings seriously, you help them take ownership of their emotional experience. For example, a toddler may have depression because they can't find their red Sippy cup but should use green instead.


Their powerful feelings come from feelings of frustration. If we take their feelings seriously while limiting their behavior, we show respect for their point of view.

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Understand your child's temperament.


Every child has many qualities and ways to communicate with the world. Some are likely to be flexible, while others are aggressive. Some are confused while some are extremely sensitive. Children have different ways of dealing with infections and changes. Give your child time to pay attention to the specific style of living in society from birth can support their healthy development.


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Study Differentiation in children.


It takes time and effort to understand your child's emotional development. Everyone will be different if you have more than one child. Having a consistent parenting style can be helpful and comforting for all your children, but flexibility is as important as each child's specific temperament. The time and care you take to understand your child's emotional experience nourishes them to develop into a healthy adult.